Category: Encouragement

Honoring Teens who Don't Deserve It

Honoring Teens who Don’t Deserve It When challenged with the concept that honor means to value others, one parent responded honestly, “My fifteen-year-old son has become so hurtful I just don’t see any value in him anymore. I don’t feel like I can honor him at all.” A problem arises when a person’s worth or value is not easily apparent. A dad might dishonor a teen because he doesn’t appreciate her and even considers her opinions and actions foolish. He may overreact, pull away, or make sarcastic remarks. Mom may react with anger when treated poorly and over time lose any sense of value she once had for her son. It’s especially harmful when parents give up or become hostile in response to teen rejection. We believe this to be a serious parenting mistake that may contribute to young people searching for different friends and authorities who will listen and accept them. When others’ worth or value is not easily apparent, a person must learn to honor by faith. Each person has intrinsic value to God and is significant and worthwhile to Him. Often when you start with God’s perspective you recognize the value of even a difficult person. Stories abound of parents who have continued to be faithful even when all seemed hopeless, only to find the teen to make major steps of improvement. A teen is formulating...

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Top 10 Mistakes of Homeschoolers

======================================== INSTRUCTED by the Scriptures, LED by the Spirit Bold Christian Living E-Mail Newsletter, Issue #129 Top 10 Mistakes of Homeschoolers Copyright 2005 Jonathan Lindvall Permission to re-post in full is granted. ======================================== Top 10 Mistakes of Homeschoolers I am very thankful the Lord spoke to my heart, as a single man back in 1972, that when He gave me children I was to teach them myself. At the time I thought I was unique. I had never heard of anyone besides foreign missionaries without access to schools teaching their own children. It didn’t occur to me that the Lord might be speaking the same word to many others. Later, after marrying and having our first child, my wife and I encouraged a few other families to teach their own children. We even started a Christian School ministry to facilitate this (we have never had a campus–all the students are taught at home by their own parents). We didn’t call it homeschooling for well over a year–we hadn’t even heard that term yet. We thought we were the only ones in the world doing this, and only knew we were to disciple our own children rather than send them to school. We were amazed to later begin meeting many others in diverse places who reported that they, too, had thought they were the only ones the Holy Spirit was...

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Fortifying the Faith of Our Children

Fortifying the Faith of Our Children by Wayne Jackson Why do our children succumb to apostasy when they reach maturity? What can we do about it? Wayne Jackson explores these questions. “My son was raised in the church. We taught him the Bible. As a youngster he sometimes helped to serve the Lord’s supper. He even gave talks occasionally. After he was in college a while, something changed. He began to question the teaching of the Scriptures. Now, he professes no faith at all. What happened?” This is a story that I have heard over and over again across the years, Many of our youngsters are losing their faith? Why is this? Perhaps there is no simple, single reason; however, it may be sufficient to observe that one of the causes of this growing defection among our young adults is the fact that for years they were operating on a borrowed faith. In too many instances they had superficial instruction from mediocre teachers in their church Bible classes. Added to this is the fact that they were given no substantial intellectual training at home. Accordingly, when they encountered the crass, humanistic environment of the university atmosphere, they were unable to survive. It is time that we awaken to the reality that if we wish to preserve our children we must take more seriously our responsibility to educate them in...

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Learning Self-Discipline

Learning Self-Discipline For many years, I have had the privilege of knowing the renowned classical guitarist Christopher Parkening. By the time he was thirty, he had become a master of his instrument. But such mastery did not come easily or cheaply. While other children played and participated in sports, he spent several hours a day practicing the guitar. The result of that self-disciplined commitment is proficiency on his instrument that few can match. Self-discipline is important in any endeavor of life. It's best defined as the ability to regulate one’s conduct by principle and sound judgment, rather than by impulse, desire, or social custom. Biblically, self-discipline may be summarized in one word: obedience. To exercise self-discipline is to avoid evil by staying within the bounds of God’s law. I'm grateful for my parents, coaches, professors, and the others who helped me develop self-discipline in my own life. People who have the ability to concentrate, focus on their goals, and consistently stay within their priorities tend to succeed. Whether in academics, the arts, or athletics, success generally comes to the self-disciplined. Since self-discipline is so important, how do you develop it? How can parents help their children develop it? Here are some practical tips that I've found helpful: Start with small things. Clean your room at home or your desk at work. Train yourself to put things where they belong...

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Cleaning House

CLEANING HOUSE (author unknown) Last Week I threw out Worrying, it was getting old and in the way. It kept me from being me; I couldn't do things God's way. I threw out a book on MY PAST (didn't have time to read it anyway). Replaced it with NEW GOALS, started reading it today. I threw out hate and bad memories, (remember how I treasured them so)? Got me a NEW PHILOSOPHY too, threw out the one from long ago. Brought in some new books too, called I CAN, I WILL, AND I MUST. Threw out I might, I think and I ought. WOW, you should've seen the dust. I ran across an OLD FRIEND, haven't seen him in a while. I believe his name is GOD, Yes I really like His style. He helped me to do some cleaning and added some things Himself. Like PRAYER, HOPE AND FAITH, Yes I placed them right on. I picked up this special thing and placed it at the front door. I FOUND IT- its called PEACE. No thing gets me down anymore. Yes, I've got my house looking nice. Looks good around the place. For things like Worry and Trouble there just isn't any space. Its good to do a little house cleaning, get rid of the things on the shelf. It sure makes things brighter; maybe you should TRY...

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A Short Parenting Tip

A Short Parenting Tip October 14, 2005 Some Helpful Working Definitions When children know how to obey then we can give them the privilege of using a wise appeal. When a child doesn’t like a request or instruction, they may use a wise appeal that goes something like this: I understand you want me to.because. I have a problem with that because. So could I please. The first phrase helps the child identify with the concerns and needs of the parent. When parents feel understood they’re more likely to listen to alternatives, negotiate, or compromise. The second phrase helps the parent to understand the child’s predicament and reason for discussion. In the third phrase the child offers a creative solution that addresses both the concerns of mom or dad and the concerns of the child. You may say to your seven-year-old son, “It’s time to clean up the playroom now. We have to go run errands.” If he’s just gotten involved in his train set, he might say, “I understand you want me to clean up because we have to go out, I have a problem with that because I just set up my train track, could I please leave my train out until we get home?” Of course, a child in this situation needs to be able to accept “no” as an answer. A child who is unable...

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Rearing Lords and Ladies

This is from Homeschool Today: Rearing Lords and Ladies by Betty Burger Imagine yourself a father whose hobby is restoring cars. You own a 1970 Mustang, now in pristine condition, which you have spent years restoring. Today your seventeen-year-old son, just licensed, says to you, Dad, may I have the keys to the Mustang? Would you give them to him? Has it ever occurred to you that God did something very like that, only much grander, for Adam and Eve in Eden? He made them lords of his new, perfect creation in which He delighted. Now consider in contrast the most recent clothing ad you’ve seen for young people. A friend of mine quipped that the girls’ clothing in such ads should properly be labeled Early Prostitute and the boys’ clothing Bum . Lords and Ladies or Prostitutes and Bums? Which is the right description of the human race? Which are you? Which are you raising your children to be? These are very important questions. The Mustang illustration above began a recent sermon by Dr. T. David Gordon of Grove City College . This excellent exegesis of Psalm 8 entitled What Is Man delighted (as well as encouraged and convicted) me because it brought a number of things that have disturbed me about our culture together under their proper headingthe doctrine of man. I was also grateful that my...

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